I apologize in advance as I don’t know exactly how this entry will end. I usually have a plan when I write but this morning I will write simply from my heart.
This week I received news of the suicide of a young girl I once babysat. She was 20 years old. I haven’t stopped thinking of it since; it seems impossible. She was young and beautiful, was studying at university and had oodles of friends. From the outside, she led a charmed life.
I started jotting down some ideas a few weeks ago about how we matter to each other. People I mean. I meant to turn it into a blog entry but I just never got around to it.
You know, life can get hectic. I know…I have 4 children under the age of 6. Our jobs, our homes, even our ministries and projects can consume us. It’s not that we don’t care, most of us do truly care, it’s just that we’re busy and distracted.
Friends, some of the things we put the most energy into are things that will pass away. The ONLY thing that matters in the end is people; relationships. Your spouse, your children, your neighbour, your co-worker, that girl sitting on the sidewalk crying…THEY are what matter.
How we love is the most important thing we can do in this life. I believe it was how God intended for us to reach people. To care, truly and deeply. To ask the difficult questions and to listen to the answers. To expend ourselves for others; to be available to those who are hurting and need encouragement. To look outside of our circumstances and see who God is putting in our paths to reach out to.
Those of us who have lived through the questioning years, through the unsure years and have come out the other side…we OWE it to the younger generations to be there for them. It is God’s own design. Never underestimate the impact you can have on a young life and never get too busy to be a mentor or a friend. Talk to them, listen to them, take them seriously. LOVE them.
It was my own children clamouring for the attention of a young friend of ours that really drove this home for me. Now, I do A LOT with my children…I mean, I spend every day caring for them, listening to them, engaging them in conversation, planning activities, going on outings, I even homeschool!! They are not lacking for attention by any means. Yet, I watched as they hopped eagerly from foot to foot, each one trying to talk over the other to keep our friend’s attention. We matter to one another. YOU matter!
I wish I could have been there for Jenepher. In that moment, when she believed that she just couldn’t take it anymore, I wish I could have held her and told her how precious she was and how valued she was by our Father. God, help me never to miss an opportunity to show your love to someone who needs it.